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Originally Posted by Frankbtl
Hi, not erratic at all!! And if I'm misinterpreting you can always blame me for erratic thinking anyway instead of your posting. I don't mind, who knows!! No-one's perfect!! 
But that "confused thrashing around in" your "mind" I'd say just let it out!!
If it's saying "I don't know about....", ".......feels wrong", "Wait, this feels uncomfortable, I don't know why, but........" whatever, it's still important.
So just give it some words then maybe you and your therapist can work towards figuring it out a bit more, getting to the bottom of your concerns/feelings, and finding a solution you're both happy with.
You don't have to be completely "textbook" in your concerns/"arguments"/debates do you? Afterall feelings aren't always "textbook" are they? And it's her job to be helping you in working through them. Put them out there, they matter!! All part of therapy!! 
And if she learns to realize that you need a little more input about tasks then maybe she can adjust your sessions a little to accommodate for that.....move them forward in the sessions. Then again, nothing wrong with you asking for that anyway.
And nothing wrong with you intervening on her "rabbiting" e.g. saying "I know......" and elaborate, or saying "I'm sorry, but I'm just loosing the point/the thread a bit there". If it's not helping then she does kind of need to know.
Therapists can/ should be good at adjusting their communication to the needs of whoever they're talking to, so just let her know "where you're coming from". You may still get a bit of "rabbiting" if that's "just her" just "her style" but if you can find a "middle ground" where her "rabbiting" could also be a little useful, along with the rest that would be good, right?
But good on you with being upfront with her in the past!!! Just a little more of that, hey? And hopefully she'll adjust her approach to you both getting through it together.
You've got a commitment to trying to make this work, right? That's all that matters!!
Best wishes
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Thanks. Not much more I can add as I agree with a lot of what you're saying. I also realise that I have to give her some rope to play with... she is after all human and things aren't always going to pan out... but I'll adapt to the limitations and be more aware of what's going on. Or at least, I will endeavour to... problem with me fluctuating is I get a rush of mixed signals that can lead me headlong into what I can only call 'crisis'... so yeah... got to try and keep my head on my shoulders for as long as possible.
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Originally Posted by sophiesmom
TJ, you seem to be a little like me.....I need to know what the point of something is before I will do it and why I am doing it.
In other words I need to know the where the path goes before I go blindly down it.
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Well, yes... I had actually stated this to her in the beginning. She advised she would try to in places, but that I needed to put some trust in as well.
So I've been trying to find a fine balance... but in the recent situation, I think I leaped before I looked without really considering the consequences... was a poor moment of judgement on my part
Will be a lot more careful in future 'assignments' that involve other people.
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Originally Posted by Rohag
Personally, I think this is great, both the movies and the talent (gift?) to construct fantasy. These may be much better than meds.
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I've been going through moments of doubt over this... in some ways I kinda tie it into deliberately (on my part) detaching from... ummm reality is the wrong word... present circumstances. With her bringing up dissociation, it's made me worry that I'm doing something wrong when I retreat into those moments.
I've compensated into trying to make it pro-active... so I'm currently using my 'imagination' and that world to flesh out the story (potential book) on paper. At least that way I've got something to show for it... and the writing is kinda therapeutic in itself.
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