I think you have already answered some of your questions. You are having cycles that are not normal and very destructive in your life, that also came at a huge cost. BP2 is usually found in a depressed state of mind. Hypomania can be uncommon, but does not need to be this way. This is according to my Internet sources.

As far as "getting over" BP, there is a reason they call asymptomatic BP as being "in remission". But as you get older, the cycles can change IMO to being less or more frequent.

FWIW

tucson