For the most part, I find that people that have knowledge are more than eager to share it, and people are usually a lot nicer on the inside than they can sometimes appear on the outside.

I don't know if you are looking for a solution here...but why not ask one of them? Be clear and honest.

My daughter had a horse so I spent a lot of time at the barn...I love horses but am terrified of riding.
I have recently gotten in touch with a therapy riding center near my house to inquire about riding.

I think that overcoming a fear would be a big plus as far as self-esteem and obstacles goes. A great lesson in anxiety control.....

Just my opinion.