Hi Life,

I know what it feels like to think you don't measure up to the world's vain standards. At 24, I had a motor vehicle accident which left visible scars on my forehead, nose and eyes. Before my first plastic surgery, the receptionist told me that when the surgery was done, I would have no scars. Can you imagine how much my heart sank, when I looked at my face after the stitches came out? The scars were still there, but just shaped differently. For years, I felt ashamed and thought I grossed people out. But then I realized that people weren't as shallow as I thought. They were curious, but certainly not mean-spirited. Many didn't even notice the scars or didn't care.

I don't know what you look like, but I can tell you there are many ladies who find bald guys very attractive and don't care too much for muscles. And I know because I have friends and we talk. Sometimes, it takes just one cruel voice to create insecurities about our looks for a lifetime. But I've come to learn that the concept of beauty or attractiveness varies from person to person and what we think they're hung up on, really doesn't matter to them at all. We just have to keep hushing the negative voices in our heads that keep telling us we look awful. Keep working on your health and personality. That's a good thing. For the shallow persons who think that's not enough, leave them be. Eventually, they do see the light. Big hug!