I can tell you that men who are Mensches realize that women have a harder lot in life - they have to carry, birth, and nurse their young. That women get to enjoy a bit more in terms of satin, lace, or interesting looking clothing is a tiny compensation for their harder lot in life. And if men like the feel of lingerie - ok, have them clothe their ladies in the lingerie they like, but not wear satin and lace themselves. I would find a man wearing female lingerie laughable, as in "clueless", and by clueless I mean "unaware of the critical difference between men and women".

The awareness of the critical and undeniable difference between men and women and the reverence in which men who are Menshces hold women for that reason is what makes true men men, and not aggression. It has nothing to do with aggression or machism - it simply boils down to this one very simple matter, in a "yes/no" manner. I somehow missed that critical distinction in that both ex husbands did not have that reverence, but many other men in my life, including my wonderful 6th grade boyfriend, with whom I reconnected via Skype in 2013, for the first time since 6th grade, have that reverence. Well, at least I was on the right track responding to male interest when I was in middle school.

If a man is a Mensch in the manner described above, but happens to enjoy putting lingerie on himself and can explain that interest without losing the reverence described above, then, I guess, I would be OK with it, but if a man feels entitled to women's lingerie because he is trying to get in touch with whatever, then - no way. I mean - getting in touch can be done without my presence, right? In the OP, if I read it correctly, the woman's partner wanted to wear lingerie in her presence. So he is asking her, in essence, to help him get in touch with whatever that side of his is that he is trying to get in touch with - I think that might be a tall order. but let us ask OP, since she has not posted and appears to have abandoned her thread.

PS I can see comic value in having a man dress up like a woman, so I guess a couple that enjoys the lighter, or farcical, side of sex might enjoy cross-dressing for that reason.