Well... you play music, so you probably have musician friends - why cannot you get a boyfriend from among them? One of my early boyfriends and, now that I have taken inventory, one of the people who have exerted most positive influence on me, although I appreciated it years after he died, was a musician. I also had friends among musicians, and a fling with German composer, but I had him dry hump me because he was not at the level at which I would actually have sex with a guy. At any rate, musicians are great for first boyfriends; much recommended, without reservations.