Thank you romansideburn. Your response did help a great deal. I do think my husband is having depression troubles, I have seen this before with him six months after we started dating. He went looking for a job but it took longer than expectedand the longer it took the more he gave up. With the bsby on the way I understand the pressure I just NnEED him to step ul at least until the baby is born and I can work again. I tried to bring this up but when I do he gets so down on himself and starts deminishing himself as a spouse and man. It breaks my heart to hear him speak so badly on himself so I avoid unless it builds up. Any advicr on how to bring it up without making him feel bad?