IMO, and for CBT, transference is necessary for good therapy to happen.

alex, that your T calls it to your attention means you have progressed in the realtionship. I think at first, getting to the meat of the problems is important, and when the transference is noticed by the T, it's just noted by the T.

As one progresses in therapy and is ready, the T will call attention to when you are treating the T as though they were another person in your life(transference.) Once you begin to realize those thoughts and feelings, for all the ppl in your life, you're on the home stretch, imo, to begin healing and working on your own boundaries etc and other's boundaries, and how it all affected you.

TC