I dated a girl a couple years ago, but she pushed back because I was getting too close too quickly and her schedule was incredibly busy. We reconnected a couple months ago and spent several days on the first pure vacation she'd had in years, but this time the deeper and more fundamental issue was brought to the surface: She still hadn't fully dealt with the sudden death of her fiance several years ago.

Since then I've tried to be positive and supportive while she (presumably) gets professional or other help to get herself in a better place. While this has been happening, she's been largely silent (she's the type who won't say anything if she doesn't know what to say). So while my mind understands and I don't let on that I hang on her every word and dread her silence, I hurt waiting impatiently for her to find a better place and hope she comes towards me when she's ready.

We live in different states currently, so it's not like we bump into each other. This girl's far and beyond anyone else I've ever met, so moving on at this point wouldn't work if I wanted to. She knows how I feel, though I'm afraid the perceived pressure of that outweighs the unlimited support I'd be willing to give if she ever asked. After a couple months of silence immediately after the trip, she had a cute response to a humorous text, which made me hopeful. But later that week when I asked if it was a good time to talk and see how she was, she said 'not really a good time right now' though the context of why was missing and could be a number of things besides her healing.

So at this point, I'm trying to find the best way of supporting her while still promoting the idea of us as a long term possibility. How do I try to stay a small part of her life in the meantime. Is there a way I can start a more consistent dialogue without making her feel pushed considering that's probably going on in the background of both our minds? I'm willing to do what's best for her, but it'd be disingenuous if not an outright lie for me to act as if I didn't have these feelings for her or a hope for more in the future. I know there's no right answer, but any thoughts would be appreciated.