im not saying im perfect just so were all clear, i understand how she must feel atleast from a guys perspective it just seems like im trying alot harder to keep everything together while she could careless. and no i wasnt involved with a 14 year old? haha sorry i know its not much better but she was 15, i was friends with her best friend and assumed she was 16 until after we were seeing each other(i know that sounds really dumb)(i just wanted to clear that part up). most of what ive said is just spectulation since the baby aint even here yet. i also know that being a housewife/mom isnt easy but you have to keep in mind our situation. maybe im being over confident or whatever but i honestly dont see how cleaning the small amount of mess wed produce with 1 child, her, and me working constantly(i dont wanna work as much as im going to but im thinking of the future) is all that hard especially in a small apartment. im not expecting everything to be flawless from her end, i just honestly dont see her matching up with my end of things with out a constant kick in the arse. without any more bashing, shes the type of girl that if it dont happen right now then give up, but going out partying while i bust my ***** while our families watch our kid is BS(btw if any of you disagree dont post here, thanks). i agree with one of you were both too imature as of right now, that happens when youre young and unexpected, i could be wrong? although i do feel im more mature on all of this then my gf. im thinking 100 miles further while shes only thinking maybe 10 miles down the road so to speak. i cant predict the future im just afraid of ending up like so many other people i know who work constantly and come home to a wrecked house bc the other just doesnt care. i almost feel like she doesnt realize everything thats learned just by observing someone(thats what children do?..right?) after thinking about it i guess my main reason for posting this is bc i dont know how to handle this. how to balance it all. how to prepare myself. how to get through to my gf. what to expect. how to do anything with this. i have friends that are dads but honestly i dont care for their opinions as i believe most of them are deadbeats and bums...which is why im here. i dont want me and my gf to break up if its workable. i just dont know how to go about any of this.

i dont want our relationship to fail and our child caught in the middle but at the same time the invisible line has to be drawn.