Shosjo. I'm sad to hear your story. You're not living in a secure environment & either are your children like so many stated above.
I do have to ask, when you wrote this thread were these the answers you were looking for? Are you surprised by them? Where do you fit into this relationship? Children need a good role model father too. Don't forget your role is very important here. What are you doing to help yourself here? Are you still in love w/ your wife & that's why you're staying in the marriage? There must be some reason why you're staying involved in this relationship besides the kids. You need to honestly look @ the pros & cons. Where will this situation be next year? In 5 years?
I hope you find some happiness for yourself soon.
Peace

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