Hi Dexter, my mom is no longer suffering from depression. She was grieved when my dad died, but it was "normal." Most of her issues have been resolved over the years and really what I am dealing with now is that I realize the older I get how messed up things were when I was growing up and that I need to pay careful attention to what I do now so that I get my needs met and to fight against guilt feelings when I'm doing what is right for me (guilt is the way I am controlled in general and that is going to stop because it is up to me to stop allowing it to control me). My husband is very supportive and actually because he was not raised in my dynamics, he brings a fresh look at the way things are. He is loving to my mom and he has been the one to say that we need to keep appropriate relationship boundaries, especially since mom lives with us.