I am not sure about discussing it with said family member... are they aware they treated him this way? Is he (the young man) 'strong' enough to face, perhaps confrontation from said person.. Or even denial from this family member? I mean, it could be a volatile or explosive situation. Is there anyone else, close to him, who could (gently) broach the topic of his issues affecting his life, so as to steer him towards getting help? Maybe a sibling, close friend, counsellor at his school etc. The aim being not to make him defensive

If you had contact with him, you would prob be the best person to talk to him - as a collaborative effort to help him and subsequently your relationship. Maybe if/when he approaches you, this could be an option? Will you send him the 'good luck' text?