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Originally Posted by badoutlook
I feel like I've suffered through so much pain that I'm trying to move forward from it. I tried to hint to him that it felt too intimate by asking him not to express how much he enjoys our sessions and looks forward to mondays.. I also said that I feel like I'm in the wrong by asking too many personal questions about him and his life. He encouraged me to do it instead of getting the hint that I'm trying to set boundaries for our sessions. I tried without making things awkward. And he was offended anyhow. I mainly just have the fear that if he is heard by a coworker it will seem inappropriate and he will get in trouble. And if I responded what would happen? Idk. Thank you for the input. It still seems a little odd between us. And I've been with him since the beginning of november
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Giving hints is a habit that is unhelpful in therapy. Direct communication is critical to success. Perhaps giving him this thread would ease your discomfort about being direct. Also, it's not your place to worry about him getting in trouble with a coworker. If you work on becoming comfortable expressing yourself, drawing boundaries, owning your feelings and behaviors, the rest will fall into place. That is very good work to do in therapy. The oddness is also partly just par for the course for many men and women who are in that intimate therapeutic relationship together, particularly when you're unused to therapy.