Trigger warnings here too.

Similar thing happened to my brother, then age 14. After my mother's fifth marriage blew up (he was chronically out of work and on drugs, and had beat her within an inch of her life before leaving,) she was telling him off for some minor misbehavior and tossed in, "You cause me to lose more husbands...."

Yeah, because he was just such a wonderful man, husband, and father figure, and was any great loss to start with. She didn't lose all those husbands because she was codependent and choosing pond scum to marry in the first place. She lost husbands because my brother had ADHD.

I also relate to the second incident, having been told more than once, "You're book smart, but you don't have any common sense," or "I'm going to have to knock some sense into you."

In the past year or so, the only contact I've had with my mother was to tell her happy birthday when she turned 70. I didn't feel like I could ignore that completely. It just didn't seem right. But now I'm back to no contact. Reason being, her fourth husband sexually molested me. Not only did she not have him prosecuted, but a couple of years later, she actually considered remarrying him! No, she didn't care enough about me to make sure the men in her life wouldn't abuse me, so why should I be in her life now?

After reading about the responses: Wow, sickening about the four year old being blamed for daddy's crime. I hope somebody set that crazy woman straight. Yes, I know, crazy is a disrespectful word for mental illness, but I don't think stupidity is one. It reminds me of something I myself saw in a shelter. This was back in the days of liberal smoking privileges, and cigarettes were allowed almost everywhere. I saw a mother slap a two-year-old. The little girl had innocently picked a butt up out of an ashtray and curiously examined it. "She's only two years old. She don't need to be going around smoking," said the mother. I was in disbelief. Then there was the mother who, when her toddler fell off the side of the tub while playing in the bathroom, ran up to her and.... checked to see if she was hurt, right? Nope, afraid not. Spanked her for playing in the bathroom. And one more--the mother who said to her three-year-old daughter, "Pull your shirt down. I'm not raising a hoochie-mama."

Ugh.