It seems to me that men place a lot of importance in the orgasm of their partner and one must applaud them for that but as someone who has difficulty orgasming at the best of times I find that knowing my partner's need for this places more pressure on me and in turn results in even more difficulties getting there.

Anyone else feel like that?

Why must men take it as a personal insult that I haven't orgasmed? It really is me, it has nothing to do with your technique or anything else I just don't work well.

And I really am happy with just the act. If I were in it simply for orgasm I'd do it myself! lol