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Old Mar 21, 2014, 11:06 AM
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Shosjo I have been trying to think of other things for this situation. its so easy for us to tell you things like get out of the relationship, medicate, dont medicate, get a new doctor, dont get a new doctor sit down with the existing ones, divorce your wife ....you know all those things that naturally go through my head when I am trying to help someone I know who appears to be in a bad situation...

but the line in the sand is that only you can make this situation better, only you know all the different elements in this situation. what I tell you to do may end up being a very dangerous /life threatening thing to do....

for example

one of my thoughts is maybe its better to leave and get divorced....

but on the other side of the coin what if this is a volitile/domestic violence situation that I may not have all the information about...then we have a person who the moment hears the words "Im leaving" takes the children and spouse hostage, isolating them in, terrorizing them, abusing them or committing murder/suicide....

or maybe my thought is do nothing...and the person ends up killing their self because they feel their spouse doesnt care.

or maybe my thought is take her to the hospital and have her hospitalized. well I know of cases where when a mentally ill person realized they were on the way to the hospital they jumped out of the moving vehicle...

bottom line is no matter what anyone / I tell you only you know what you can and should do about this because it is you are the one living the situation, you are the only one that knows what resources there are in your location, what your rules/laws and such in your location say to do about this situation.

since I dont want to cause you more harm then good by telling you to do things that I would do if it was me, which can cause more harm then good, my suggestion is

if this continues to bother you contact a treatment provider in your location, they can help you sort through your thoughts, feelings, all the different elements of this situation and they can also hook you up with the appropriate people who have mental health qualifications to deal with this kind of thing.

when we come here to psych central, we are just like you....people with mental problems and people with loved ones with mental problems so we cant tell you what to do about your wife.

only you can do whats right for you and your family since you are the one living the situation.