I have just found a note some boy wrote to my older daughter for her birthday. I do not know which birthday, but since she moved out of this apartment when she was 14, it must have been on the 14th birthday or earlier. The boy's writing is quite good and creative. He made an Acrostic - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia out of her name exalting her various qualities (including "drop dead gorgeous", which she is, knock on wood, and "smoking hot", which she is as well, knock on wood as well, but also mentioning very many qualities unrelated to appearance). The boy wished her a happy birthday, reflected on the value their friendship had for him, and in a P.S. said that he just wanted her to be happy.

So that is high quality male interest.

Being hit on is not a good thing. It is not a bad thing, either - it is just noise, scum that is sometimes unavoidable, but not a good thing. "to hit on a girl" means to use some idiotic pick-up lines etc. I cannot remember most of the instances of being hit on precisely because these pick up lines are so dumb, generic, and thus unmemorable.

I would say this - being hit on is neutral and you should not engage with people who hit on you. Just smile but do not engage.

High quality male interest is worth responding to. High quality male interest does not necessarily mean that the man is high quality, but at least it is worth looking into the man who displays high quality male interest, and for a fling he may be good enough.

Age-wise, you could have been my daughter (my son is 21) so I am explaining that to you. My own mother did not explain that to me - she is dead now and I cannot discuss it with her, but recalling her, she was more of the "male interest is a good thing" persuasion, and I am by now picky and recommend that you start off being picky from the get go. Being hit on is noise and scum and neutral, so that you have not been hit on is NOT a negative thing - it is a neutral thing. Neither here nor there.

More bothersome is that you have not generated any high quality male interest. Probably your fear of men is written all across your face and that scares off potential suitors. Fear can also translate into constricted posture, lack of a confident gait, and a whole gamut of non-verbal signals that put people off.