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Originally Posted by hannabee
Maybe you could look at things a little differently? No one can bring you down but you. You can choose to see others strife as "their path" and then be quite thankful for "your path". Many people here are suffering with mental illness, so I guess that is why you did not get any responses. I think they see themselves as that "friend" who might bring you down.
Sometimes people who are going through "hard times" need the proverbial "Pollyanna"...they need someone in their life to bring them "up". You could inspire, not require. And at the end of the day, you are then a "human" who is being humane. Hang in there...friendships do get easier with maturity!
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What I'm saying is being humane and trying to be a positive influence to people is sucking the life out of me. I only have so much to give, but when people treat me poorly and don't want to engage in a real reciprocal friendship I don't think I should have to continue the relationship. Why? Here's where I am at now-- I
choose to be part of these friendships with people, so I would rather choose to set limits or not be part of these friendships at all.
I know what it's like to have a mental illness. I have had depression since I was a child and PCOS makes the depression worse. I'm at the point in my life now where I don't think it's beneficial for me to wallow anymore or keep befriending people who want to wallow. I'm more of a person of action now and I want to live life instead of seeing it pass me by.