I'm pretty sure I have the neurotic transference going on. :-( but I haven't read the linked info yet.

Not with a t exactly... I have been corresponding online with someone who has a doctorate in psychology but who isn't a psychologist. Our corresponding was very much like therapy for a while. We've been writing for almost 2 years. It isn't like therapy at all now. She is the one who really pushed me to get into face-to-face therapy again. ... anyway I am still caught up in the transference and it is really hard to deal with.

The last t kept referring to it as an obsession, which I guess is right. They even talked and t said, What a sweet lady!... sigh. yes..

This person I'm attached to was so warm and soothing to me when we began writing that she became a mother figure to me. She became the mother I never had as well as the mother I fantasized about for hours and hours, all my childhood. How do I let that go?

Thing is, even though it causes me a lot of grief it also is a fulfilling experience. and it's hard sometimes to not respond to her in that way, but I am trying. She knows and is helpful about it.

I tried so hard to talk about this with that last t who didn't want to talk. I told her that I saw this person in a mothering way and that I didn't know what to do about it. ... She just called it an obsession, asked me if I "really" "need" this person (well, no.. YES!.. no.. YES!... oh, I guess not...no). lol. And then when I asked that t how I should address her (her business card has a nickname on it), she said, "Well, ' Dr. so-and-so'.... because of what happened with" the person I am so attached to. I felt like she thought I was judging me, afraid of me (!), disliking me right off.

Now the new t. I told her about it. I wasn't clear in my explanation that although we still correspond very frequently, it isn't like thearpy any more. She said something about that being 'hard to compete with' and it has me worried that she will expect me to stop writing to this person, but I won't. I can't. I tried. I couldn't.

Anyway. I am now going to go read about it.

Thanks for sharing the links!