My husband is really considerate but understands when I can't/don't want to get there. Sometimes I don't feel like fighting for it, when it's a struggle and he understands. I tell him I enjoyed it still even without orgasming. But usually later that day or the next day I get there on my own just to release that tension that built up from not getting there earlier. I'm better at it on my own anyway. At least lately... I have a complicated sex life.