Hmmmm, pinksoil and alex, I'm not sure any of your negative transference examples is resonating with me. I have sometimes said something to T that indicates to him that I am minimizing my worthwhileness (is that a word?) as a person, or minimizing my feelings as unimportant or a target for being rejected or stepped on. He says this is because I relate that way to others from the past and present and he asks me to stop it with him, lol. Once he drew my attention to it I have tried not to do it when I am with him and ascribe more value to myself. Is my doing that with him (devaluing myself) a type of negative transference?