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How about send him just one email instead of cutting the cord all together. It took me a long time to accept my T's support because I felt that if I accepted in fully I would get hurt real bad when it gets pulled out from under me. I have half accepted it and he encourages me to write him and I will when I feel I deserve it and won't feel guilty for taking up his time and mental energy. He does reassure me that I am not bothering him.
Ok I got off track......anyway make a compromise with yourself. Try writing the emails and do not send them but on the fifth day combine them and then send him the email. It will satisfy that part of you that needs to stay connected with him.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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