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Originally Posted by Lycanthrope
If that's the case then why not do something about it? Doing the same thing over and over again will just end up with the same results.
Why not try and lose some weight? The truth, if you are very overweight ( and I assume you're not exaggerating) then yes that will be a barrier to men wanting to be attracted to you. That doesn't mean there aren't men out there who don't like big girls, but the reality is that you're limiting your chances, and with limited chances, comes the limited amount of decent men.
Looks are important to men, almost certainly at the initial stages of looking for a woman. It may seem shallow, but it is the reality unfortunately. So join a gym, eat healthy, do activities like swimming or running.
If you're clothes are a problem then buy some different clothes. Do you have any girl friends who can help you with this? You claim you don't present yourself in a way that'll draw male attention? Well you need to change it. Maybe get yourself a new haircut, some make up and a nice new dress. You'll be surprised how different and how much better you can look with just a few changes like this.
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I've lost 160lbs. I don't think I'm able to lose much more.
I'm terrified of changing what I wear because it makes me uncomfortable. The Venn diagram of stuff I'd be willing to wear that makes me feel comfortable and stuff that is effeminate and attractive is two circles. I HATE dresses. LOTHE ENTIRELY. I feel like I look horrible in them and they make me horribly uncomfortable to wear. Always have.
I also don't have enough money. My
wardrobe consists of $5 unisex t shirts. I feel weird about make up. This all just goes back to me not wanting to draw attention to myself but wanting male attention but doing nothing to get it because I'm hopelessly stuck in fear