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Originally Posted by HazelGirl
Amelia, I get what you're saying and in some cases I would agree.
However, can I respectfully disagree for a moment and explain why?
For some people, they need to be pushed to be a little more independent. A step like this would be a great thing. For others, however, who are already very independent and are fighting against allowing themselves to need others a little, a step like this is a step backwards. It is going from healthy inter-dependence to unhealthy isolation. If it is hurting the OP (which it sounds like it is), it is NOT a good move.
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The OP said "I
don't know if I like it".
To me that shows that there is an uncertainty in which direction their feeling go. And I couldn't read in the post that the OP is hurting badly, instead I sensed a certain anxiety. Which is fine and normal but it doesn't have to mean, that it is necessarily bad.
So as just a very untrained observer I think this experiment came out of a very great, healthy reason and the fact that the OP tried this and says that she doesn't want to be dependent, shows that there is a maturity in there that should be reinforced. Yes, some people may need to to learn to be a little dependent - but in a healthy way. I am a firm believer that therapy is to equip, not burden. That it is to encourage that kind of independence, that kind of desire the OP expressed. (As I read it, perhaps my perception is off)
Love, Amelia