Hi lovely sweepy :-)

I think with you as well - the desire NOT to call in every situation you feel you want to, is GOOD! It means you have a healthy, independent side in you - And I know you have!!
But of course, if a little dependence is what you need to learn, what might be beneficial for you, then your T encouraging you to call is a good thing.
But these are two different things:
Calling/emailing because there is an urge - is fine but not always good. And it can leave you feeling anxious about how the T reacts and that can cause huge anxiety and it causes, as many of us know a certain dependency that is not always good for us.. What dependency is good that leaves us anxious and afraid and on edge?
Calling/emailing because there is a crisis or because there is something good happening - is healthy and encourages the right kind of dependence that can be helpful and healing.

Forcing us to sometimes reconsider our impulses, forces us to rely on ourselves and our own strength a little more and that, in my opinion is ALWAYS positive and commendable.

But that said, I have emailed and called on impulse and I am not ashamed of it. It is to realize what it really means for us that helps us discover how much of it is good and helpful and how much of it is a result of our past and what we have been told.
Learning about our impulses is a HUGE part of learning healthy dependence and independence.

But again, just my opinion and others may disagree..

Love you sweepy :-)