Amelia: thank you for your post, what I am trying to do, is sit and allow those feelings of want an need to call my t about an anxious moment, or an intrusive memory, which she has encouraged calling, but then again, I put my coping skills especially mindfulness.

If it were a crisis, I would call my crisis team. If mindfulness didnt work, and I was still distressed, then I would possibly call her. Im trying to develope a healthy relationship from the start, not a dependant one, where I pick up the phone all the time.
Just my oppinion, im not saying everyone who calls is a clinger.
I need self control, my t disagrees with this to a extent. She wants a healthy attachment between us, I believe it can happen, without having to cling.