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Originally Posted by growlithing
Gay as in GAYYYYYYY. Almost none of them like girls.
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I have / had lots of musician friends, girlfriends, a boyfriend, a short-term fling guy, etc. Most men though not all - straight, same for women. I find it hard to believe that things have changed THAT much in 25 years. I mean - yes, there is a higher percentage of gay men in ballet and music than population-wide, but that all guys in your school would be GAYYYY sounds hard to believe. Maybe things have changed so much in 25 years - quite possibly they have - but the only problem I had with musicians is that my main composer boyfriend would not be willing to put on music during lovemaking, because, as he explained, music would have made him fully concentrate on the sounds to the point at which he would have been unable to make love to me. In other words, music was even more important than I was to him. It was a little disappointing right when I heard it, but later I realized that this is just how his mind worked.
Other than that, pretty much every musician I know now, and they are famous people by now, accomplished being in their 30s and 40s (those who have survived without killing themselves...) are straight.
On a completely different note, getting male interest out of guys who are otherwise known to be gay feels like a big accomplishment. It happened to me only twice (both times NOT among musicians) and it is not that I was after it, but when if it did happen (verbally without physical follow-up), it felt quite good, the way getting an A+ on a really tough, challenging exam would have felt. So don't completely rule out gay guys - you never know.