I would try to reframe some of the conflicts so they appear more like challenges than conflicts? For example, when I get in a conflict with my husband over money, I stop trying to change him and figure out what I want and how I can get that. My husband has a certain mindset so I figure out how to present things so he can "agree" with what I say. Sometimes I just go ahead and buy/do what I feel is right and deal with any immediate fallout, knowing that is what I want for us and that it will help me and him more than it will hurt us and that way I can ignore his ignorant criticisms as not being about the subject (if I study a subject and he does not, I allow myself not to have to pay much attention to his emotional opinion -- both of us value "facts" so I marshal my facts and he has nothing to counter with).