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Old Mar 22, 2014, 04:00 PM
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Originally Posted by growlithing View Post
My school has an unusually high amount of gay men even for music standards. The composers tend to be straight but odd. The jazz musicians tend to be straight but taken or not attractive to me for whatever reason. The classical instrumentalists and singers tend to be gay. The composition and jazz department is quite small too. The whole school has less than 1000 people.

Uh I would never be able to listen to music during sex and it isn't because I value music more than everyone. It's because my brain is not wired to listen to music passively. I hear music, I'm conscious of it even when I'm doing something else. I listen to the words, harmonies, melodies etc. I can't turn that part of my brain off and asking me to do so is a little unfair. So I don't feel like being unable to have sex to music means you were less important to him.

"Otherwise known to be gay"... that seems a little disrespectful. They are attracted to other men. Not women. That's who they are. Maybe they are confused and are actually bi but that isn't my prerogative to assume that. I believe them and I accept them. I'm not saying they are rumored to be gay, I'm saying they are out. I get lots of "attention" from gay guys because gay guys and fat straight girls for some reason just seem to click. But I am friends with them not because I'm hoping they aren't actually gay and I can get with them, I'm friends with them because they are good people. Well obviously not all of them but the ones I am friends with are. I'm also not attracted to them. Well one of them is pretty damn hot. But I'm attracted to men who are more masculine than effeminate. I'm not saying all gay guys are effeminate but a lot of them at my school act and dress rather stereotypically. That's fine but I'm into guys that at least seem like they might be into what I have to offer.
I do not know what is disrespectful about saying "otherwise known to be gay" - please specify.

The way you are describing your mind is the way my former, now deceased, bf described his.

Both otherwise gay men who were attracted to me were not effeminate at all and I am with you on effeminate men.