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Originally Posted by growlithing
No. If something sexual were to happen, the following are possibilities
1) I like him. He doesn't like me. I get hurt
2) He likes me. I don't like him. I feel awkward and/or I get hurt by him
3) We like each other. Something sexual happens. I have to do something sexual and show off how clueless I am and embarrass myself.
4) I have to take off my clothes. He is disgusted
5) I take off my clothes. He is not disgusted and wants to go further and I'm scared. I relive the past.
I don't even know what to do with a boyfriend if I had one.
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If you cannot handle (1), then the rest does not matter. People who are not willing to take risks rarely receive rewards, either. For (2), you will need to learn the skill of deflecting male interest gracefully and generously (that means that the guy would not be so hurt by you). The skills comes with age and the earlier you start practicing it, the better. (3) as I think I have already tried to explain to you, if the guy likes you, he would like
you, and not your skills/experience or lack thereof. Somehow this very simple, basic, trivial point is not something you are willing to grasp. There is a difference between a job interview and a sexual encounter. (4) if you get to that point, most likely he will not be disgusted, but you can always turn off the lights, too. (5) why? it would be a different person.