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Originally Posted by sweepy62
Very good topic, as I struggle with this issue, that is why, I moniter it in therapy. The word alone " dependance" whether healthy or not, just bothers me. As far as im concerned, I didnt depened on parents, for anything, except basic needs, food, water, clothin, schooling, and a place to sleep. As I grew older, I took care of me, I may have gone hungry, and struggled, but I did it.
So to create a dependancy in therapy, in therapy for me scares me, and its not logical for work to be done. Some therapists maybe want to create this " healthy dependancy" but then how do you break or ween off these feelings the client developes for the t, hindering, future independence?
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The idea in much successful therapy isn't to break feelings, but to outgrow them, to no longer crave the same attachment as we incorporate what we receive from the therapy better into our lives, to gain what we need, keep it, and build an overall better life. Think of a baby, bottle fed. As that baby grows, it doesn't have to break its desire for the bottle- it gradually transitions to a fuller diet, and wants, at a point, the independence and self-control of feeding itself. If a child was forced to bottle feed at the age of 10, it would mostly just resent that, same with good therapy.... hopefully, you'll get to naturally outgrow the dependence as you learn and gain what you need to enjoy life independently of therapy.