Oh honey, I'm so sorry that you have to go through another set back.

I think you are right, though. It's time to learn how to put yourself FIRST. It is easy to put others as a priority, because then you don't have to think on your own problems. No more pushing yourself to the back of the line!!

You deserve ...well, you deserve everything you have been denying yourself. You deserve to be taken care of like you have taken care of everyone else.

I'm not sure this suggestion will make sense, but... can you picture yourself in the third person? If someone you cared about (a friend or family member) came up to you, and described similar circumstances... what advice would you give them?

It's time to put yourself first! Don't talk yourself out of it, because of some nonsense feelings of guilt or selfishness (that could just be habitual low self-esteem talking). Time to do things selfishly!!! YOU are the priority!!

Now you've paid your dues to others. No more being a martyr for people who don't deserve you. Now it's time to put in as much time and effort into taking care of yourself as you have put into taking care of others in the past. You are worthy! Time to act like it.