What happens when it's something you can't really influence? It's easy for me to influence my husband but at work that is entirely different. I have been through work stress before that infiltrated every aspect of my life and made things so unpleasant all I wanted to do was sit on the coach, eat, and watch tv. I don't want to go back to those days. I'm just not sure how to change my mental state at work so it doesn't trickle into home life (which can make things worse at home).