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Originally Posted by melania
People are in therapy for years. At first they think about their problems and how to help themselves but then therapy turns to obsessesion with therapist.I've been reading so many posts here and I can say that most of people are really obsessed with their therapists, therapist becomes one of the most important person of your life, you are so interested in him/her, you think about him/her most time of your day, sometimes you feel sad, hurted, rejected because of your therapist, you want to know so much about him/her, some of you want his/her hugs or touches, some of you need another therapist to talk about your therapist, for some of you your therapist is the biggest problem, some of you really hate boundaries, some of you dream about sex with your therapist.
Do you really think it's healthy and helpful? Do you want to spend all your life thinking about your therapist who will never be your friend, who you see once a week and pay for it?
I just wanted to share my thoughts.
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Melania -
I don't think this is a fair characterization.
For some, there can be a period of obsession that is part of the journey, but if the therapist knows what they are doing it won't last that long... much less "all their life" as you fear.
I'm wondering why you feel compelled to be critical of those who suffer from an issue they'd much rather not have to deal with? If someone finds themselves obsessing, it's simply a sign that there is something there that needs attention - to be worked out between client and therapist.