Transference is extremely common and not 'abnormal' at all. What's called the "therapeutic alliance" between a mental health professional and a client is a very complex relationship; obviously there's an imbalance in power, and yet you're allowing yourself to be vulnerable with this person. I don't think there's any other kind of relationship with this dynamic, and gender probably doesn't figure in as much as you might think.

FWIW, my own pdoc is one of the most interesting people I've ever met, and if we weren't doctor and patient, we'd probably the best of friends because we have the same tastes and the same weird sense of humor. He is extremely attractive to me because he challenges me at every turn and doesn't hesitate to say No to me. I don't have many other people in my life who do that, and fewer still who get away with it.

It took me awhile to sort all this out, but it's NOT a romantic or sexual attraction; it's an intellectual one, and I also admire him because he has such rich and varied approaches to life and its problems. Perhaps your situation with your therapist is along similar lines?

Besides, thoughts aren't actions.....they're just thoughts. I don't think you're necessarily hypomanic because you're having them.