I know it doesn't help right now, but it might help later, to think you might have dodged a bullet here. That guy sounds like a control freak in the making. You're better off saving your energy for someone who will accept you for you, and not who he wants you to be.

For what it's worth, I'm so messed up myself, Eharmony wouldn't accept me. They turned me down flat. I met my husband online, but on a site other than Eharmony or Match.com. It wasn't even a dating site.