I know that to me it can seem as if therapy is a really negative thing when I read some of the posts here (but only some of them!), so I can understand what you mean. But I think that what most people post on this forum is actually not a major part of their entire lives. Here's what I think:

* Most people who go to therapy don't come to this forum, so we don't know what therapy is like for most people, based on what people write here. (I do know that at least in my country, it is a small minority of people who go to long-term therapy - most therapy patients do it short-term.)

* For those who post here, many need to post when therapy is not going well. Maybe they need advice, or support, or just a place to vent. That makes it look as if all therapy does is cause this need, but it is a skewed picture.

* And we also have a fair amount of threads about positive experiences of therapy. Some people are really good about posting when things are going well. (I wish I were better at that, myself!)

* As for obsessing about our therapists, that's actually not true for many of us. I know that I don't think about my therapist most of the time, but when I post here (which I do in order to connect to my friends here) I tend to say something about therapy or about my therapist, because that's the reason I am at this forum after all.

* Sometimes I do think a lot about therapy and my therapist between sessions, but that doesn't mean that all my life is eaten up by it. And when I have a period when I wish I could go to therapy every day (I certainly go through those periods from time to time) I probably seem more obsessed in my posts than I actually am. Again, because that is the purpose of this forum - I write about my T on here, but I don't talk about him to other people, and I don't think about him all day long. Maybe I would like for him to say that he cares about me, and dislike the boundary that prevents him from saying that - that is not obsession, I think, it is pretty natural to want the only person who knows my secrets to like me in spite of that. At least I hope it is natural.

* And, as several other people have also said, it is certainly possible to think about one's therapist all day long, but in many cases that is a passing phase, something a person can go through for a while and then come out of. It can even be a necessary part of therapy for some people, to learn how not to obsess about other people. Some people go to a second therapist to get some perspective on their therapy - but some people go to see a second doctor to get another opinion about their physical health!

Long story short, it can be a bad thing to treat what other people write here as something that has to be true about our own therapy. This is a different kind of example, but it kind of illustrates the same thing, I think: I used to be really afraid that my T would terminate me out of the blue, because it has happened to a few people on these boards - but I have come to realise that it is a bit silly of me to base my expectations on other people's experiences of other therapists, rather than my own experience of my own T.