Have you expressed to your mom that fighting with her makes you feel this way? I mean, not talking to her about urges specifically because I'm assuming she doesn't know/ you don't want her to (I know what that's like) but just telling her how the fight harmed your feelings in general?

Your mom might not perceive the fight as a big deal, but you do. And your feelings are what matter. Maybe try talking to her about it, unless you guys really don't get along. And it might even prevent arguments of this scale from happening again soon.

- AJ