I don't agree that it was a red flag. I think he just wanted to know. Now that you know how he feels about it, and he has trust issues (which I'm finding out myself, I got serious wayyy to quickly about someone that was honest about a relationship he had been in for a year, to find out the woman he had last been in a relationship with, was married and going home to her husband, sorry to add, but I realized after how stupid this man was not to figure that out sooner). All men who are looking have been burned before, or they wouldn't be looking.

Its not unfortunate in a way, that you talked your way out of a possible date. But what I'm learning, gradually, is to cut the communication much shorter, and just get the guy to meet me. If there's any spark, common interests, common goals, etc., you then ask how HIS last relationship, or marriage ended. That way you get a feel, and the red flags will be if he is keeping any negativity towards the last relationship that ended.

That would be the last thing you want, is someone to use you, like my man did, to get back at women in general, because of his trust issue with women. I feel for you, because I know how easy it is to start letting our feelings get involved with a man, and it hurts to be rejected because you are honest.

People want honesty, and you did the right thing. This man has issues, and you don't need them. It's actually a great thing on your part to be able to be friends with your ex, not all relationships are possible to be ending in friendship. You do need to be clear though, with a man, why you remain close to your ex. I think it's perfectly fine to have other gender friends. If that man couldn't accept that, it's his issue, not yours.

Hugs to you. You'll get over the anger and hurt soon hopefully, it can be hard to put yourself out there, but I find it is either keep doing it, or totally isolate myself, which I'm not willing to do. What I am willing to accept, is that I will be rejected, and to get a tougher skin.