You state you're staying for the kids, when in fact leaving for the kids is a much healthier option.

If you all carry on the way you are now, what type of example will you be setting, what type of life lessons will your children take away from this?

* No need to respect your dad, your mom clearly doesnt, he doesn't even seem to have any self-respect.

*Drug addiction is perfectly acceptable in this house, there are zero consequences. I will enable and pay for your addictions and for those of your deadbeat partners.

*Marriage means its perfectly acceptable to stay with somone who disrespects you,openly cheats on you, and has zero respect for you.

Sorry to be so blunt but you have to come out from under that rock and think of your kids in a more longterm and practical fashion, instead of purely emotional.

Yes it will suck to have a mother who only visits them now and then. But staying away 5 nights a week, means they're already in that boat anyway, its just not official. As it stands your wife's current role in their lives is to simply pose as mom.

The environment your wife can potentially expose them to is very dangerous. I dated a meth addict, I know how ugly the scenery can get. Refusing to expose my (our) daughter to his lifestyle choices is what lead to our break up.

Here's food for thought:

*Are you comfortable and completely at ease with leaving them alone in her care?

*Do you trust her to be responsible for them and their safety at all times, even when she's high as a kite?

*Do you trust them alone with her while she's jonesing for a fix? (What if she leaves them to meet her dealer? Or heaven forbid let them tag along)

* Do you know for sure there's no way her druggie bf or drug dealer will never come into contact with your kids?

*Do you know for sure that they will NEVER witness their mother shooting up, smoking meth, suffering from withdrawls, or God forbid OD'ing?

I urge you to think about this, its noble that you want to keep their "good" mother in their lives... But at what price I ask.