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Old Mar 24, 2014, 12:22 PM
Anonymous445852
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No. I'm sure I was held as a baby, (they of course had to feed me), I remember mom always delegating the task of caring for me to my dad. He was almost never home anyways, but I was always looking for him. I remember a few times, that dad tickled me, and there is no pictures of them hugging me. No memories of them being affectionate to each other at all, (they were violent verbally and physically to each other, only a few flash memories of that too). The time he tickled me last, my mom was angry, said stop it (insert his name here), and he never touched me again, other than to spank me. He never hit me otherwise. My mom did, all the time.
I did grow up to feel an avoidance to touch, until a boyfriend got me over the fear. Then I became someone who needs that very much, and I also believed and felt my children deserved to be told they are loved, as well as hugged. It is routine, just comes naturally too, to hug my sons before they go to school, but I think its important too, to realize when they just need one, out of the blue, and some praise for things they do, not just picking at the negative things like mine did. Sorry, I get to talking and cant quit... it seems to help to let things out lately.