I would say by all that you have said that your husband probably has a personality disorder and is probably NPD - they have a well known record for lying and cheating - with them it is all about supply and what happens is we become their secondary supply and they are still out their topping it up with primary supply - if you can keep away you really are best off out of it - he will really hurt you albeit unintentionally - he needs to recognise he has a problem before there could be any chance! Love and luck to you xXx