Thanks for everyone’s feedback and would like to give everyone an update. Especially Hannabee!!!

Our 1 year anniversary was on Saturday. So we planned to go out for dinner on Friday and then go to this dance club on Saturday. Then on Saturday evening I was waiting for her but she was late. She texted me and said she she could not leave work until 10pm. I asked her if she was hungry and she was starved and I made a really nice dinner for us. She then called me at 11pm and said her day at work was crazy and was leaving now. I told her by the time she gets home, showers we won’t leave until 11:45pm and the drive to this club was 30 mins and it closed at 2am. So I suggested another club which was only 10 minutes away but she was not happy.

She arrived at my house and you could see she was in a bad mood. Her day was hell at work and she was frustrated. I told her that I made dinner and said she was not hungry. So I started to clean everything in the kitchen while she text someone on her phone. She was getting really mad at her phone and started to shake it. It was weird. I asked if she was alright and she just ignored me. I asked her if she needed a hug, which she accepted then became quiet again. I said, well let’s go to the closer dance club and she said sarcastically “Whatever you want”. I then suggest we just stay home and she responded, “Whatever you want”. She sat back down and with her back facing me. I told her that I don’t read minds and if you can’t communicate I am done with this. I told her that I am going outside to have a glass of wine. That is when I checked out of the relationship and wanted her to leave. She finally packed her bags and left. I then went back in the house and locked the door. She tried to come back in again and started knocking on the door!! I answered and she asked why I locked the door? I said you left and I was going to bed. She said okay then she left again.

The next night, she comes to the front door. She apologized for what she did but told her that I was done with the relationship. She said I really wanted to go to the dance club and had my heart set on it. I wanted this to be a special night. I told her that seeing her act the way she did was not what I wanted for a girlfriend or future wife. I told her that communication is very important and when she shut down; all those red flags were raised.

I told her you didn’t even offer money for those Asian shows and she replied, “You never asked me!!, is money that important to you?"

I told her that you are never happy with me and don’t trust me. She said, trust has to be earned.

I said, if you don’t trust me then why are you staying with me? She did not say anything.

She told me that she is my rebound relationship.

She tried to convince me all night to stay in this relationship but I told her my decision was made. Then she said, “Well you are using this incident to justify in breaking up with me!!.” I stayed the course and just said, we are now done. She asked for all her belongings back and walked her to the car and helped her to load her car. I said good-bye and we both hugged each other. As I walked back to the front door I started to cry. I woke up the next day and felt sad and tried to focus on my job. It was hard. Friends and family told me that I made the right decision and our relationship would have gotten worse. She did have a good thing but looks like she wanted more.

All of you have given me insight. I need to be happy with myself first and do not want to get involved with any women. I need to start and focus on my hobbies. I also think that if I give something to someone, don’t ask for anything in return. I really believe I got too involved in a relationship to quickly and should have just been alone when I was separated and then divorced.

And with my current relationship; it should not take this much work!!

I know that I am a good person but sometimes people will take advantage of you. As my lawyer told me when I found out my wife was having an affair and wanted me to pay for her moving expenses, “stop being a door mat!!”