My lover and I have an intense love/hate relationship. We love each other so deeply ,but one minute it will be almost perfect/happy/I want it to be, then the next minute we will be saying the worst things to each other. My best suggestion to give to you if it is a lover, it to get out of it in any way you can, and stay away from it. No matter how much you may love them, you simply cannot love them in way they deserve, and vice versa. You deserve a healthy relationship and to be happy mostly all the time. Your spouse is supposed to make you happy. If it is a family member that of course is a different story. Please let me know if this helps any, if you disagree with anything I have said, or have any more questions. Thank You and I hope this helps some.