I have noticed this strange behavior in myself. It came to light during some discussion with my therapist when I was discussing about my social phobia. Can someone please tell me whether there is any term for this behavior?

Basically it's about "forgetting the context". What happens is lets say I'm interacting with someone and they say something which sounds harsh but actually it's not harsh based on the context at that time. I don't feel hurt that time. However, after a few days when I remember that incident I remember it a little differently - I've forgotten the context in which he was speaking but remember the harsh words. And that starts hurting me. This happens when there is someone habitually speaks in a harsh tone and in general behaves harshly with me over a couple of days. Let me explain with an example.

Let's say that my boss is speaking harshly to me (out of habit) and I know that something has happened in the project and he's worried about it. So when I hear his harsh words and his manner of interacting I know that he's reacting to what happened in the project. This goes on over a few days. And then suddenly one day I remember all these scoldings and I feel wronged/insulted/mistreated. I no more remember the context of his speech but only the harsh words. And it all just adds up into a big ball of pain.

After a period of a few days if I try to work on the CBT stuff (my therapist has been helping me with) then suddenly I realize hey maybe this is what happened.

Does anyone have any idea about what is going on here? This "Forgetting the context" thing that I do - is there any term for this?