I hope someone can identify with me and offer some words of wisdom....of hope. I am on the verge of losing a very important relationship in my life. In every important relationship I have had, I do not know how to resolve conflict. Things will be great for awhile but as soon as issues arise I am doomed. At the point where someone gets upset with me, I lose it. From then on the attempt at "fixing" the relationship turns into a downward spiral until I end up losing the very thing I am working so hard at saving. Even when the other person wants to resolve things, I always see them as not feeling the same about me and that I have ruined every thing. I will perceive their every action as an attempt to push me away. My uncontrolled emotions get the best of me and the feelings of hurt, resentment, fear and my abandonment issues prevail over any little sliver of logic I have in my head. Ultimately, I do not trust that they can love me and want things to work. I read into everything and throw it back on them until they have had enough and really do want to leave. Does anyone else out there share these experiences. How can I forgive, forget, and relax back into the relationship and give it a chance to repair.....before I open my big mouth and ruin everything for good?