That sounds like such a stressful relationship! Congratulations on being done with it. It's hard to break up with someone, even when you know that you are doing the right thing. I hope you feel better about it soon (and that she doesn't try to worm her way back into your life).

I took a year off from dating after I realized that I was just making one bad choice after another. It was the best thing I ever did. I put a lot of serious thought into 'red flags' and did not date anyone until I met someone who had none of those red flags. We've been together six years now.

Good luck!