The really hard thing is that there is nothing you can do to make people quit or seek treatment. Even if he's living with you, you can't make sure he gets help, goes to counseling, or that any of it 'takes.'

You are in such a no-win situation, I'm sorry. A friend of mine has her adult alcoholic junkie son living with her. He won't get help, she feels like she can't kick out her own kid. Part of her hopes he winds up in jail for a few years to sober up. That may be the best thing for him, who knows?