owlpride, I would ask him about it. My T often tells me to tell him when I'm bothered by anything he says or does, because that can get in the way of therapy. For me, that is very much the case, and even if your T did not in fact get that from you, it sounds like something that would be worth getting out in the open.
If I may digress...
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Originally Posted by nottrustin
We were discussing a situation I was in with my family (not hubby and kids) where I was feeling overwhelmed with being everybody's caregiver. I said something about being the caretaker. Then I stopped and asked why caregiver and caretaker are used interchangeably. It seems to me that the person is always giving of themselves and never taking.
She completely agreed
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Oooh, what an interesting question! I had to find out more about this. Apart from the fact that "caretaker" can also be used about people who take care of buildings or other inanimate things, while "caregiver" is almost never used in those contexts, there is a historical difference: "Caretaker" was seven times as common as "caregiver" in American English 1810-2009, while "caregiver" was about 1.5 times as common as "caretaker" in American English 1990-2012, which means that "caregiver" has really taken off at some point over the last two hundred years. Perhaps the reason people choose the "giver" variant is just what you say - the care provider
gives, but doesn't
take. Thank you for this! (My sources are collections of historical and contemporary American English, stored at corpus.byu.edu )